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"As most of you know, my son is Autistic. I wanted to get something that represented him other than a hand print or a foot print. So, I went with the Autism ribbon. He will ALWAYS have autism, whereas his hands and feet grow. My son is my inspiration, my heart, my soul. He's my hero."

This was my wife on her Facebook recently after she got a tattoo in tribute so our son.  There's been a lot of hate speak online, in my e-mail and people telling us that we can "fix" Corran's Autism. One of my recent entries had my thoughts on the matter (the guy kept e-mailing by the way. I finally told him flat out to stop) and my wife, my amazing beautiful wife decided that - rather than blogging or ranting on the internet like I do - she would get a new tattoo on her leg just for Corran. A nice permanent reminder of how lucky we are to have a kid like him.

Here's the tattoo

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That really is an amazing Tattoo! And it didn't break the bank either! Cost less than $100 and the artist really took their time to put their care and craft into it instead of just finding a template and going with it. I might even get my own spin on it at some point.

Btw feel free to check out the tattoo place if you are even in the Greenwood Nova Scotia area. They are called Everlasting Ink, the Artist in Question's name is Amber. Here is the website http://www.everlastingink.com/. They are based out of New Minas NS, have a store in Greenwood NS and I keep hearing good things about them.

In short, every time you think your wife is awesome, she can surprise you with more awesome

Originally posted by g_monkey at Thought I'd share something with you all
The following picture is pretty much ALL of Corran's symptoms for his autism. Hopefully this will give you an idea of what he and I work through on a daily basis.

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Reminder


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In case you missed it


In case you missed it in my rant from my previous entry. I got a very nice comment from a Vegan restaurant in Vancouver. Figured I'd give them a shoutout! Feel free to check them out and tell me how the food is in case I ever make it to Vancouver!

The place is called Panz Veggie and it looks tasty http://www.panzveggie.com/
Here's some pictures from their website and check out the link in the previous sentence (and previous entry)
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Questions and Comments

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Today I am going to touch on a couple of things.

Questions and Comments.

I'm at work so this will be quick and painless.

Today I recieved two comments about my blog with Corran. The first one was wonderful and made me feel very good about the state of humanity and the acceptance of Autism in our society today. The second one made me grind my teeth and hold back tears as I recieved it in my personal e-mail which I checked at work during my lunch break.

I'll touch on the upsetting one first. This one came into my personal e-mail CaptainJamesFrost@gmail.com.
Now I know this is the internet and I acknowledge that people sometimes say things or mention opinions that may be upsetting to other people (intentionally or not) that might offend and hurt people. Here is the e-mail that was sent to me. Now before you read this, please know that I am not encouraging a witch hunt, I just wanted to share with you my feelings on the matter.

"hi,

i came across your story and wondering if your son's autism started after
his vaccinations ?

you can take a look at earthclinic.com, curezone.com and Dr Russell
Blaylock's vaccine detox since autism has been heavily linked to vaccines.

all the best, be well."

So how do I start this? Well I'll start it this way. My reply. Now I was going to write a strongly worded reply to this person but luckily my boss, Robbie took notice that I was upset and let me know that getting mad wasn't the answer. So I told them the truth. Corran has always been a little different, it just took us a while to realise just HOW different he really was.

Here's my simple reply.

"Hi

My son's Autism was already apparent before his vaccines. But thanks for taking the time to ask and for your attempts to give me resources. Have a terrific day!

Simon"

No anger, no hurt, just a polite reply thanking them for the time they took to e-mail.

I will point out one thing though, as a parent to an autistic boy and as someone who has friends who go through this all the time.

Here goes....

No matter how messed up, loud, annoying or generally out of the ordinary someone's special needs child appears to be, no matter how different they are. Unless you are asked, never, EVER tell a parent that their kid is screwed up. Never EVER tell them that it's their fault for giving them vaccines, or eating certain foods or mixing certain ethnicities (I've heard all of these, the last one usually being the most aggressive as my wife is %50 African American, God Forbid). And especially in the case of Autistic kids, NEVER try to convince a parent that there is a cure unless you know they are actively seeking it.

I'll lay it out for you. Autistic kids are not messed up, they are not a burden and they most certainly are NOT in need of curing.
As an Autistic child, my son's brain is wired differently. I am wired for comedy, creative writing and the love of a good story, my wife is wired to be someone who can carry on a conversation for hours about nothing or talk logically through an otherwise stressful situation. You the reader could be wired to play the harp while riding on the back of an elephant while singing Yankee doodle...... ok maybe not that.....

The point is that my Son's brain is wired for Logic and curiosity. He might not be able to understand the emotions of others, or body language, he might have trouble learning simple things like going potty or language all while being able to pull apart and understand the basic electronics in his Wiimote. He is just wired differently and he is MINE. He is not a problem and he is not your problem.

Here's a fact. If there was some magical cure for Corran's autism, I would never give it to him. Sure if he wanted it later he could go do it himself, as that is his right as a human being. But as a parent, and as someone who loves every special moment with the special boy that is all mine, I could not do that. This magical cure that everyone talks about would basically rewire my son's brain. He would no longer be the boy that I know. There would be this "Normal" kid inhabiting the body of my wonderful and wonderfully different little boy and I don't want that.

The point is that a magical cure would not fix a child with Autism, but take them away. It would be equal to taking my son back to the doctor with his birth certificate and saying "hey this kid is defective and I'd like to trade him in." That just doesn't fly with me. Sorry but I just do not want that for my son. If there is ever a legitimate cure for autism, I will tell him about it, but it will be his decision and I will wait for him to be an adult so he can make that decision for himself.

That is all I will say on that subject as I can't talk about it anymore without getting more upset at the office and I am pretty sure I've made my point.

Let's move on to something that made me smile this morning. I saved this for last because I want this e-mail to end on a happy note.

In the comments for my very first entry about Corran after his Father's day gift, I recieved the following comment.

"i am in vancouver, bc canada. if u happen to be here in november 2013
please come to my vegan restaurant panz veggie for conplimentary meals
with your son. not just one meal but meals. hope to see you both here.
connect good chi both of you."

This was a wonderful thing to wake up to this morning. I was touched by this. Nothing about cures, vaccines or anything like that. Just a simple, kind-hearted guesture and a well wish.

Sir or Madam, I don't know who you are, but thank you for this. I won't be in Vancouver any time soon but the offer means a lot. Not because it is free stuff, but because it shows me someone who sees someone who is happy and instead of trying to inject themselves into the situation to say "hey there's a guy here with a cure" or "hey you should have aborted him" or "hey your kid is a retard", instead they say "Hey I see you have a loving family with a terrific child, have lunch on us."

This really touched me to my core. No judgments, just goodwill. I know the offer will have expired by the time I ever get a chance to go to this restaurant, but I'll be sure to check it out all the same. I hope the place is as nice as the person who commented I imagine it will be very good indeed.

In the meantime I'd like to encourage anyone who reads this and who is or will be in the Vancouver area to check this place out. I took a look at the restaurant webpage and it looks like a good place to go out with some friends, and I think these nice people deserve some business after a nice guesture like that.

So the place is called Panz Veggie. It looks really good and even if you love meat I hope some readers will check it out. Also let me know if it's any good so I can check it out if I ever make it to Vancouver. Here is a link to their website! http://www.panzveggie.com/

That's all I've got today. Sorry for the rant but sometimes a guy just has to blow off some steam and a blog is a good place to do it.

I hope my readers have learned something new from this blog or my previous entries. Next blog I'll post an update about Corran with photos!! Be sure to check back often as I'll be trying to write more and more.

Catch you all later!!

Wanted to share some stuff.


I know it's been a while but I'm unfortunately going to make this a short entry. It's been pretty busy this last month.

Corran has been back at school, he's doing very, very well. He's learning to read and doing amazing. I've never been more proud of him, now when I get home after school he brings me a new book and reads to me!! Every time!!! It's such an amazing feeling to know how quick he's catching on! And best of all? He loves it!!! I woke up to him reading this morning!! I guess next scholastic book order I'm going to have to get him some new books!!

We've also decided to make him a Doctor Who costume for Halloween, though we are kinda stuck right now between 10th and 11th Doctor costumes.... basically whichever one we find the materials for first will be the costume we pick.

What else...... my Birthday was on the 22nd. I had lots of sushi. a copy of GTA 5, some nice clothes and my brother bought me a book! Specifically THIS book!!
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My wife also made me a cookie cake!! I don't like cake that much so instead it's a giant chocolate chip cookie!!!
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If you are wondering if there will be any more game reviews on this journal unfortunately the answer is no. I've started writing for a videogame news, reviews and editorial website so all my reviews and gaming related news will be there! Here's a link to one of my articles there, dedicated to the late Tom Clancy!! http://www.onlysp.com/tom-clancy-a-look-back-at-26-years-of-gaming/

I'll be writing pretty regularly there so it should be lots of fun :)

And now on to something else.

Every month I've talked about something special in the life of disabled or sick kids, sometimes it's all about Corran. Sometimes it's about other kids. This month I've decided to mix my love of Top Gear (UK) and these amazing kids and show you a video I found this morning. Heads up, you may cry.



It's a wonderful video and it did make tears run down my big sissy face.

Anywho, that's all I've got time for this morning! Catch you later!!

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Not sure what to make of this...


Well today I'll keep it simple. I'm gonna talk out an event in Corran's life today and then do a game review.

I'll try to keep my spirits sounding high but at the moment I am a bit sad.

See today Corran's Guinea Pig died. Some of you may or may not remember but in the original news article about Corran back in June, there was a photo of him cuddling his little friend "Linny."

Here is the photo, in case you forgot.
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Anyways, today Linny died. He'd been sick for a little while and there wasn't much we could do but make him comfortable. It was peaceful from what I could see. I came home for my lunch break and the little fellow was laying on his side, breathing slowly. I took him out of his cage, cleaned him up, wrapped him in a warm towel and made sure he slipped away warm and safe. He was still alive when I left my house, my wife messaged me shortly after arriving at work to let me know he'd passed on.

When I got home, I changed my clothes and went outside to bury the Guinea Pig.

Corran caught me.....

I was expecting tears, a tantrum, screaming... anything really.

Corran was very calm, surprisingly. He approached me, gave Linny a little hug, patted his fur, said "Bye bye Guinea Pig" and walked back inside to play on his iPad.

I know he's autistic and I know that his emotions function much differently than mine, but it still came off as strange to me. See my dog died when I was 21. She was my first pet that I'd had since I was a little boy and when she passed on I cried like a little baby. I just couldn't stop.

Heck, I even cried when the baby raccoon died in Calvin and Hobbes.
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Try to tell me you aren't crying right now!

Anyways, yea I am still a bit in shock over the whole thing. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments.

Moving on, it's time for a game review.

This week I've decided to go back in time a few years and review a remake of a Nintendo 64 game.
The original game was titled Conker's Bad Fur Day and it was created by Rare for the Nintendo 64 and released on 5 March 2001. It was Rare's last game to be released for that console generation. The game stars Conker the Squirrel, a greedy, heavy-drinking red squirrel who is attempting to return home to his girlfriend.

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The game I am reviewing is titled Conker, Live & Reloaded and it was released for the Original Xbox on the 21st of June 2005

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This game carried a Mature rating and I highly recommend it not be played by anyone under the age of 18. There is strong language, sexual content, drug and alcohol use and graphic violence.

So here we go. Category one

STORY

As mentioned above t
he game stars Conker the Squirrel, a greedy, heavy-drinking red squirrel who is attempting to return home to his girlfriend. Unfortunately the Panther king has a different idea for our little "hero". See, the panther king is very fond of a good tasty glass of milk. But when he put his glass of milk on his table, it fell to the floor. The reason for this was that one of the legs on the table has broken. Now most people would buy a new table, or fix the broken leg. Nope! The Panther King has decided that he needs to replace the leg with something the size of the leg, perhaps a squirrel.....

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Yea that's about it for the story. Pretty much from that point on, you bounce from area to area pulling the most random acts of weirdness and gross antics that you can imagine.

Including this. Trust me, this video is both weird and funny. Also a bit yucky. You've been warned.



That's it for story. Not much to it. Seriously. I'm pretty sure this game was written for the pure purpose of goofing around. Don't get me wrong though, this game is one of the funniest things I've ever played. There's just not much to the story.

GRAPHICS

The graphics in this game are terrific.... for its age. Compared to todays standards the graphics are awful, but for the purposes of this review I'll be looking at them based on the standards of the original Xbox. For its time, the graphics are terrific, the textures are representative of a great console late in its life, the models are solid and not very blocky. Conker's tail is something that really got me. It's graphics are simple but succeed in making for a very fluffy looking tail that moves around realistically based on wind and movement.

Most characters are uniquely drawn and designed in wonderful detail. One of two of them are kinda crappy, like Conker's girlfriend. Feels kinda like they just kinda tossed her together so they could move on to the other, more interesting characters.

GAMEPLAY

All I've got to say about this category is it's a good thing the game is hilarious and lots of fun, because the controls are atrocious. The jump button seems to have a mind of its own. Critical jumping puzzles are often ruined by Conker's apparent refusal to jump when the A button is pressed. At first I thought perhaps this was just a mistake on my part, but after two hours on one jumping puzzle of nonstop jump attempts and yelling at the game I've realised that the controls in Conker, Live & Reloaded are just broken. Not to mention terrible camera controls and wonky combat controls well... Let's just say that the game required a lot of patience to get the hang of.

VERDICT

Positives - Very funny game, Unique and strange gameplay and levels, Well designed characters and graphics

Negatives - Not much in the way of story, Horrible control scheme

With funny dialogue, great graphics and value, I give Conker, Live & Reloaded a 4 out of 5

That's all I've got today. Had a trip down nostalgia lane with Conker and had to say goodbye to my son's Guinea Pig.

Hopefully I'll have more pleasant news next week.

Catch you later!

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